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Chameleons are under appreciated. Just imagine the constant challenge of changing your colors to blend in with the environment around you. On a leaf, you’d have to turn green. On a twig, you’d have to turn brown. No matter the place, you’d have to camouflage your true self to ensure your survival. You see, all good chameleons know: Conformity = safety;  being different = danger. New hires would be well served following a similar philosophy, as the “safety in conformity” rule is not only relevant to our colorful friends.

As you might have learned the hard way, we share the chameleon’s burden at various life stages. Our society tends to celebrate conformity while (sadly) often squashing anything that seems outside of the ordinary.You might have experienced this reality in high school when you learned that popularity is directly correlated with your wardrobe as well as your ability to not mess up the bell curve. There is safety in being just like everybody else, or at least acting like you are just like everybody else.

Your liberation from high school and college did not release you from this reality. As a new hire in a company, the “safety in conformity” rule is especially relevant – with much higher stakes. Here, if you fail to fit in with your new team’s culture, you might not only become the black sheep of the office. Much worse, you might get fired! A recent Forbes article indicated that nearly half of new hires fail within the first 18 months, most due to “attitudinal reasons,” including (from the employer’s perspective): temperament (yes, personality!), low levels of emotional intelligence and motivation, and lack of coachability (i.e., inflexibility). Read the rest of this entry

As you begin your career, you might suddenly realize that your beat up old faithful from college looks a little shabby parked in the company lot. Though I don’t believe a car determines your worth as an employee in any way, it might boost your confidence to have a vehicle to match your new professional image.

Car buying can be a real challenge. If you are anything like me, car buying was uncharted territory. My Dad handled the negotiations for my first vehicle and so I had no idea how this whole car buying thing worked when it was my turn.  Thankfully, after a few days of intensive research on cars / car buying, I gained some great tips from friends and the Internet. The experience was a lesson in negotiation, assertiveness, and stamina. This was not an easy ride, but Roxy (my first new car) was definitely worth it. I thought that I would share some of my new-found car buying wisdom here for those interested.

1. Know that car buying is an endurance sport. Do not expect to sprint through the car buying process! Rushing to a purchase might prevent you from getting the best bang for your buck. If done correctly, the process will take several days – even weeks – so plan accordingly.

2. Determine your budget. This article provides great information on choosing the right car to fit your budget. If you will be financing your vehicle, use this Payment to Income Budget Calculator to determine your recommended monthly payments by gross monthly salary. Read the rest of this entry